Behind the scenes: What no one tells you about wedding planning
Here’s the truth no one tells you: wedding planning can be emotional. Even the most organised, chilled-out, spreadsheet-loving couples can hit unexpected bumps. And that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong — it means you’re human.
Let’s get real on what it can feel like to plan a wedding.
1. You Might Cry Over Silly Things (And That’s Okay)
You might be totally on top of things — vendors booked, mood board nailed, everything running smoothly — and still find yourself crying over a napkin colour, the weather forecast, or a minor change of plan.
It’s rarely about that one small thing. Wedding planning can be an emotional rollercoaster, and those tears are often just everything bubbling to the surface — excitement, stress, pressure, love, expectations. It’s completely normal to have moments where it all feels like a lot.
2. Decision Fatigue Is Real
There are so. many. Decisions. And within those decisions, so many choices! First you pick a venue, then your vendors, then there’s flowers to consider, napkin colours, then what font your invitations should be. At a certain point, your brain might just tap out.
If you’ve ever found yourself whispering “I don’t care anymore” about something you do care about — you’re not alone. That’s often a sign you need a pause or a hand to hold through the rest (hello 👋).
3. Other People’s Opinions Might Surprise You
When you’re planning your wedding, it’s natural to want everyone to be excited and supportive — and while most will be, you might also encounter a few unexpected opinions.
Whether it’s a family member questioning your menu choices, a friend hinting at an invitation, or someone raising an eyebrow at your styling, it can feel like everyone suddenly has a say. And even the most confident couple can start to second-guess themselves.
Here’s the thing: your wedding doesn’t have to meet anyone’s expectations but your own. It’s okay to kindly set boundaries, protect your vision, and do what feels right for you.
4. The Final Month Can Feel Like a Second Job
Even with the best intentions and a smooth planning timeline, the final few weeks can feel intense. Suddenly you’re fielding RSVP stragglers, confirming deliveries, finalising playlists, and trying to remember if you ever booked that last vendor. Not to mention if you have guests arriving from overseas who you undoubtedly want to spend time with in the lead up to your wedding! It all can get ALOT!
This is when many couples reach out for help — and where on-the-day coordination becomes an absolute game changer. Because you shouldn’t have to manage logistics when you’re also trying to feel all the pre-wedding magic.
5. You’ll Probably Feel a Little Bit of Everything
Excited. Overwhelmed. Loved-up. Frustrated. Joyful. Numb. Planning a wedding brings it all. You’re doing something big and meaningful, expect big feelings to come with it.
Marriage is one of the most personal commitments you’ll ever make. Of course it’s going to stir things up. Give yourself grace. You’re allowed to feel the highs and the lows.
Here’s What You Can Expect from Us
At The Wedding Scene, we get it — not just the logistics, but the emotions behind it all. We’re here to hold space, guide you with calm expertise, and help bring your vision to life.
So if you’re in the thick of it right now, please know:
You’re not behind.
You’re not alone.
You’re not the only one who’s Googled “can I just elope?”
And yes — it’s all going to come together beautifully.
Need someone who gets the behind-the-scenes stuff as much as the big picture? Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about how we can help make planning feel easier, calmer, and a little more fun.